Excerpt: She Said Yes…Now What? REVISED EDITION

Building a Marriage That Lasts Beyond the Wedding Day 

Though you’ve said “yes” to forever, you are still a little unsure about what comes next. You know, after the engagement photos, cake tastings, and “save the dates”?

The truth is, the first six to eighteen months of marriage can be some of the most beautiful and most challenging. The little things that go unchecked, for example miscommunication, mismatched expectations, or unspoken fears; they can contribute to a much bigger issue later.

That’s exactly why I created the Revised Edition of  She Said Yes… Now What? workbook. Each module is designed to help you build connection, grow in honesty, and create a marriage that feels safe, intentional, and full of love.

Here’s a sneak peek at what’s inside and how you can start applying it to your relationship.

Discovering Your “Why”

Before you say I do, it’s crucial to understand why you’re doing this. This module helps you explore your reasons for marriage, identify red flags or blind spots, and create a shared vision for your future together.

Your next move: Tonight, ask each other, “What do we want our marriage to feel like in 5-10-15 years?” Listen without judgment and write down your shared vision.

Love, Your Way

“I love you” can mean a dozen different things depending on who’s saying it. This module uncovers your love languages and attachment styles, so you can better express and receive love in ways that truly land.

Take action: Ask your partner, “When do you feel most loved by me?” You might be surprised at the answer and that insight alone can transform how you connect.

In-Laws and Boundaries

Family can be a blessing and a source of stress. This section teaches you how to honor your families of origin while protecting the sacred space of your marriage.

Let’s talk about it: Together, decide on one boundary that will protect your time as a couple, build intimacy and increase your connection. Example: a weekly date night that’s just for you two.

Communicating with Connection

It’s not just what you say but it’s how you say it. How many times have you heard that? You learn to listen to understand, not just respond, and build conversations that deepen emotional safety.

Try this:  For your next important conversation try a “no interruptions” rule. Let each person share fully before the other responds. You’ll be amazed how much clarity this creates.

Facing Conflict Together

Conflict isn’t the enemy, disconnection is. In this module you will learn how to fight for your relationship, not in it, by keeping your focus on solutions instead of blame.

Practice this one: Next time you disagree, pause and ask: “Are we trying to win this argument or solve this problem?” Then choose solution mode together.

Money Talks

Though money can be one of the biggest stressors in marriage, it doesn’t have to be. You’ll take an honest look at your financial habits and create a plan that supports your shared goals. 

Your move:  Schedule a “money date.” Order some food, pull up your bank accounts and talk about one financial goal you’d like to achieve together.

Sex and Intimacy

Physical connection is more than a moment, it reflects trust, communication, and emotional closeness. This module helps you unpack expectations and create a safe space to be vulnerable.

Take action:  Ask each other, “What makes you feel most connected to me?” Sometimes intimacy starts long before the bedroom.

Faith, Spirituality & Social Values

Faith and values help shape how we see ourselves, our partner and the world around us. This section invites honest discussion about where you align and how to lovingly navigate your differences.

Let’s go: Share one belief or tradition that grounds you and discuss how it can be honored in your marriage.

Know Yourself

A thriving marriage starts with two self-aware individuals. In this module, you are invited to  reflect on your identity, strengths, and growth areas; so you can show up as your best self in the relationship.

Homework:  Write down three qualities your partner brings out in you that you love. Then share them, gratitude builds connection faster than criticism ever could.

Family Planning & Parenting Decisions

Kids, no kids, how many kids, your kids, my kids….these are conversations you must have early. You’ll explore expectations around timing, parenting roles, and how to blend families with grace and intention.

Ask each other: “What kind of family culture do we want to build?” This question will open the door to meaningful vision casting, whether or not having children is a part of your future.

And finally, if you’re ready to invest in your relationship before the “for better or worse” moments arise, this workbook study will meet you where you are and prepare you for where you’re going—together. 

Karen Williams is the founder of Karen Williams Coaching as well as a Professional Level Certified Relationship Coach. She is the author of several books, her latest release, the revised edition of She Said Yes, Now What? It is now available, you can pick up your copy here. To connect with her, visit her website, or connect on all social media platforms @karenwillcoach